3 ways to keep your marriage healthy.

Every marriage tends to loose the intense romance with which it started out. In order to keep your marriage fixed on a nodivorce path, the tips below are a must read.

1. Wrong Perception.

The perspective you choose when looking at the events in your marriage matters a lot. Couples loose thier bearing because of wrong perception about such an essential part of their live - marriage. Wrong perception could turn you into a victim of ignorance and you must pay for it. Ther is no excuse for ignorance. Set your perception right and your marriage will live. Don't try to fix your spouse when problem pops up. Remember,fixing your spouse will not fix the problem.

2. Dealing with conflict.

It is natural for couples to feel hurt, disappointed and discouraged during conflict.Conflict in itself is not wrong but it must be kept under control. Dealing with conflict can be a marvelous way to build intimacy and trust. It has been observed that one of the most constructive way to deal with conflict is silence. You can choose to remain silent during conflict and say what is on your mind later and more calmly when your spouse calms down. You must also learn to control your tongue if you want to keep conflict constructive so that it builds closeness rather than distance. Recognise that each of you own at least some part of the fault in any conflict and be ready to admit yours.

3. Unforgiveness.

Do you find yourself struggling to forgive your spouse? This may be as a result of not knowing the true nature of forgiveness. Forgiving does not mean absence of hurt emotion. Forgiveness is a decision that you have to make. You forgive when you delibrately decide not to let your spouse suffer for the suffering brought upon you by his or her action or inaction. This is the beginning of the process of healing the wounds. Failure to forgive prolongs the pain and will eventually hurt your marriage.

The lesson above do not come cheap. The cost is your determination and commitment to make your marriage work. These points among other will definitely keep your marriage on a nodivorce path.

If you think you benefitted from these tips Please stop by my website http://www.nodivorce.blogspot.com/ for more information on a premanent marriage. Don Starworth is a marriage councilor and relationship coach.